Q: "So here I am at the pub or something
and I see this woman across the room. I've got it all worked
out, I know what I'm going to say but when I go over, I totally
flub it! My introduction speech is all wrong and I continue
to chatter like an idiot. Eventually I'm stuck with making
some lame excuse and wandering off elsewhere. It sucks! I
need to fix this. How can I start talking to women without
looking and sounding like an idiot? Is there a template on
what I should say? "
A: "Keeping your cool while
talking to women isn't always easy to accomplish. The best
of the best make it look easy, but trust me, we're sweating
it too. You yourself have the experience of knowing exactly
what you're going to say, planning how she will react and
reacting to that. But all well laid plans go out the window
and you end up saying something really stupid, looking like
an idiot and losing the girl in the process."
In order to be successful at talking, chatting
up and meeting girls you have to know how to be flirtatious.
You've got to know how to be friendly and most importantly,
know how to make casual talk. Girls are definitely more attracted
to men who are relaxed, open and approachable. So if you're
standing there looking completely stressed out while figuring
what to say, chances are she won't be interested in you and
will more likely be turned off more than anything else.
Things you can do to break the ice when
you're first approaching or meeting beautiful girls is to
maybe play a simple game. While playing this ‘game'
that they are unaware about try to find out as much as you
can about them. Little details like their family,
pets, favorite food or color are things to remember. And if
you can remember them later on, she will most likely be impressed.
Talking to women in this manner can also usually let you know
whether or not she is interested.
Other safe but good topics to go into are
usually the lighter stuff like the latest hit movie or the
latest news. If you've tried talking to a woman on all of
the above but she still won't open up to talk to you then
it's definitely not you. It's her. Most women I know
would love to meet a guy who they can just chat with for hours
about the most inane things.
So the point is, don't stress out too much,
have an idea of what you're going to say and how you want
to talk to her but be prepared for ‘changes'. And most importantly,
keep it light! You are making casual talk after all. Remind
yourself, all you're doing is talking to a women because after
all, you're just looking for a date and maybe a shag. Leave
ol' Romeo with his long elaborate speeches behind. Be playful,
be flirty and just talk naturally. That's how you're going
to get the girls.