Singles dating is nothing new and nothing to be ashamed of either. In fact, many singles these days whether you're a young adult, a single mom or a single dad are encouraged to go out and date. This is because its nature's way for a human being to seek companionship.
Singles usually date by meeting friends of friends or hanging out and hoping to get someone's attention in a crowded bar or a mall of some sort. But not anymore, it's time to wake up to new technology and the new way of dating. Unless you've been living in the past or in a small town, you've most likely heard of this new dating service called internet dating, also known as online dating. Thanks to the technology of the Internet, singles dating will never be the same again.
Online dating is a great dating service for singles that's absolutely free and effective. It's also easy to pick up and anyone can learn this new dating method in 2 easy steps.
Getting Started - The first tip we would like to give you is NOT to go straight away into a singles chat room and try to find somebody who would interest you. All of us know that most of such chat rooms are virtually flooded with people who have only one thing on their mind - sex. So, no matter what you ask for, it always ends up in that and the purpose is defeated. You will never get the kind of person who kind of matches your interests and tastes.
More Than Looks - There are many people who insist on taking a look at the other person's picture before actually committing to a relationship. They might have their reasons of course, but I, for one, feel that such a decision based largely on looks is more suitable for a casual relationship. It is bound to sizzle off after some time. After all, how long can you keep staring at a person? And what happens if the person doesn't stare back at you?
Or even worse, what happens if you find the person staring at another person? Looks may be important, but they certainly are not the most important thing and should never be used as the deciding factor if you are thinking about a serious relationship. You wouldn't do it in real life and you shouldn't do it on the internet either.
Common Interests - We have a lot of interest and the interests of one person need not match with the interests of another. But thankfully the interests are not as numerous as human beings. So we are bound to find a lot of people who share our interests. And if we can find someone like that, then our search should end there. So, what are your interests? That is something for you to think about.
Keyword Searches - So now that you have decided what is it that interests you in a person and what your interests and tastes are, try such key word searches on a search engine like Google.
The idea over here is not to advertise yourself as a person who is in search of a life partner. No matter how well you put it, it looses that touch of subtlety once you are in a singles chat room. So don't do it that way. You remember how we spoke about working backwards; this is how it is done.
Mind you, you might have to do some serious thinking before you level down you preferences. There might be a lot of things that you enjoy doing but about which you have given a second thought.
Keywords are especially important when trying to write yourself a personal ad. The better the type of keywords you use, the more chances of your ad getting a hit.
The Dream Profile – For singles dating, one cannot put too much effort in preparing a profile. It is a vital part of online dating. Treat it as if you were getting your resume or cover letter ready for a job. Wouldn't you try to do the best work possible? So now let us discuss ways in which you can spruce up your dating profile.
There are many people who have qualms about including a picture in the profile. Well, I don't want to press the issue. It certainly does look better to have a picture in your profile. But if you're not comfortable then don't get pressured into doing it.
The next best thing you could do is once you are comfortable chatting with a person and are convinced that this person does not have any devious intentions, you could send your picture over as an attachment or a file. But this, too, is best done a mutual exchange basis. It would be unfair if you know what the other person looks like but the other person is kept in the dark and vice versa.
The Modesty Pitfall - Most of us have been trained to be very modest. When it comes to saying something good about our selves we feel very queasy about blowing our own trumpet. Right, as with singles dating, no body is asking you to do any trumpet blowing but facts have to be stated as facts.
If you are a music lover and have a good voice too, I can't see why you can't put it down like that itself. Why can't you declare simply without sounding very proud that you have good voice? A pointer that you could bear in mind would be to add something like, “My friends think that I sing rather well.”
There now, you can't feel too bad about something as simple as that. It is as good as saying “some people think that I sing well, but it is for you to decide whether I have a good voice or not.” Similar statements that you can work on and even add are given below.
“Lots of people appreciate my cooking.”
“I am no Rembrandt, but I enjoy painting.”
“I like decorating, and many of my friends think that my tastes are not too bad.”
The Braggart Pitfall - Bragging, as we all know, is a major turnoff on any regular date. So remember, the same applies for online dating. It is best to steer completely clear of it. This is especially true in the case of physical attributes. You might be one hell of a looker, but let the other person decide, remember that what wine is for Peter can turn of to be venom for Paul.
You can make implied statements like, “I am certainly not a bad looker,” or “opinion is divided, some people think that I am good looking while others think that I am not.” But perhaps the best way of describing yourself would be to add a touch of humor to it.
If you are chubby you could say something like, “I am round in all the right places…I hope.” If you are tall you could say something like, “some say I should play basketball.” If you are on the short side you could say something like, “I might seem to lacking in size but I assure you, it is all there.”
You know what is the best part about such witty remarks about oneself? Humor always works. All of us have been blessed with a sense of humor to some degree at least and if a person is able to make funny comments about himself or herself, that always acts as a turn on. And you can take my word for it; humor sells like a billion dollars.
The Boredom Pitfall - Try to make yourself sound as interesting as possible in your online profile. I mean it. If you are painting a self portrait you might as well use the right colors. Before we leave our homes what do we do? We all spend at least five minutes in front of our mirrors in an attempt to make our selves look as presentable and as impressive as possible.
Well, the same thing applies to our profile. Remove all drab details about yourself that might be of no interest to the reader. If you job is something like editing journals on the etymology of words derived from ancient Aramaic, well, just say that you have an editing job.
Similarly try to bear in mind that anything can be put down in two ways. You can either make it interesting or boring; so work on it until you are sure that it will not bore a reader to death and the best test for this would be to hand it over to a close friend and ask that friend's opinion. Nobody likes a bore so take all efforts not to sound like one.