Q: " I've been meaning to try out this online dating thing for a while now but I'm stuck at the part where I have to write out my personal ad. Writing, especially writing single personals isn't something that I do very often so I'm not really sure where to start. Could you maybe give me a few tips on what I should put in my personal ad to attract women? "
A: " So you want to get into the online
dating scene. But you're not quite sure how your single personals
should look and sound like? Don't worry its actually quite
When you're writing your singles or personals
ad for online or internet dating you must keep in mind that
while you are trying to be true to yourself, you also have
to think about what people will search for. While you may
find yourself a disciplined kind of person, no one is really
going to look around personal ads and spot the word disciplined
and grab your ad. So be true, but write smart. Try to think
about the kind of single adult that you are, and the kind
of single adult that you're hoping to snag.
When you're writing your single personals, try
to make yourself sound as interesting as possible.
I mean it. If you are painting a self portrait you might as
well use the right colors. Before we leave our homes what
do we do? We all spend at least five minutes in front of our
mirrors in an attempt to make our selves look as presentable
and as impressive as possible. Well, the same thing applies
to our personals ad. Remove all boring details about yourself
that might be of no interest to the reader. If you job is
something like “ editing journals on the etymology of words
derived from ancient Aramaic”, well, just say that you have
an editing job.
Another crucial thing about writing your
single personals is that you should keep your personal
ad as brief as possible. No woman who is interested
in online dating would want to read through lines and lines
of another person's profile. If you make it so long winded
the woman who is reading it will get the idea that you're
the kind of person who would love to keep on talking about
yourself and instead of go on a date with you, the woman would
rather curl up and die.
But that doesn't mean that you have to limit
the whole thing to just a few words. A too brief profile would
sound as if you do not have time or interest for online dating.
The best style that you could use would be to be 100% natural.
Write your profile as you would describe yourself
to any girl. This particular conversation style has
the widest appeal so make it simple and stay away from big
words and hackneyed expressions.