Q:" I think that I'm an okay kind of guy but I just don't have a lot of success with women. I'm polite and generous so I don't see what's wrong with me. My friends have hinted that I have a confidence problem but I don't believe this to be true. I'd like to think that what I'm good at what I do and I can go about my life without blowing my trumpet. What's wrong with that?"
A:" Your friends are correct, what you need is more self confidence. From what you have written it does sound like you have a confidence problem and you should stand up for yourself more. You can still be polite while disagreeing with people. The thing you should know is that love men who are confident in themselves and their abilities. So in order to attract women you have to have self confidence. But do not mistake confidence for arrogance. Arrogance is a big turn off not just to women but everyone around you."
When you have self confidence or self esteem problems you really should try to improve your situation before you start dating women again. This is because when you don't have the self confidence to date women and women will not want to date you either! And the more rejections that you face, the worse your confidence becomes. This is why you need to address this problem before you can start dating again.
There are steps you can take to improve your self confidence as well as your dating abilities. Things you can do include:
Analyze yourself and recognize your good points. From how you look to how successful you are. Think of these positive things and realize that you could be much worse.
List out your weaknesses but don't think about how horrible or lazy you are. Instead try to change and weed out your bad habits. Overcoming these negative issues will not just improve you as a person, but boost your self confidence in your ability to change and improve.
When you are criticized by people take time to think about what they said. Are they being mean and cruel or is there a hint of truth? If it is the former then you should not allow yourself to be depressed by the negative things that they say.
Finally, act confidently. When women sense just how much self confidence you have they will also respond positively. This will improve how you feel outside and inside.
Dating women truly love men who have self confidence. If you are able to build this confidence not only will you have the confidence to approach women, but they will naturally be attracted to you as well. So take the time out and gain the self confidence you need not just to improve your dating abilities, but your life.