Q: "I've not really dated a lot before this so I'm not quite sure how things like these things work. When I'm out with a woman for the first time, or if we feel comfortable enough to date casually for a while, I always have this urge to get her some kind of romantic present or gift. At the same time though I have very little clue as to what to buy and I don't have that much to spend either. The one thing I don't want to do is to give her the impression that I have money to get her gifts all the time. So is it a good idea to give a woman presents? And what should I buy her? "
A: "Buying gifts or presents for anyone
is almost usually a difficult task. I know I have heaps of
problems trying to think of ideas on what to get my mom on
mother's day or my sister for her birthday. And I'm not even
trying to romance or impress them! There is a lot of effort
that you have to put into getting romantic gifts especially
when it's for women whom you don't really know yet. Hopefully
my guide will make romantic gift buying a lot easier for you."
To get the best kind of romantic gifts,
you have to know the person who you are buying for. Not a
simple task if you're out on your first few dates. The
trick here though is to remember what she likes ,
and then a couple of dates later (if you're still interested
in her) show the woman that you're dating that you
were paying attention and surprise her with said gift .
This is a definite woman pleaser I can tell you that.
When dating women, you don't want to get
ahead of yourself. For your first few dates, if you want to
get her something, flowers are always a good idea. Don't get
something like a huge bunch of red roses, instead, opt for
simpler and prettier natural flowers. They're not just cheaper,
but also a lot less intimidating yet maintaining a romantic
feel about them. Also remember that flowers are a good idea,
but you can over do it. Sending her flowers every day is a
bad thing to do because either she'll think you're going overboard
or she'll come to expect this kind of treatment all the time!
If you think you're seriously into dating this woman, then the next phase is to get gifts that are a little more personal for your dates . Remember what I said earlier about listening to her? Your romantic gifts do not have to be extravagant. Little things like a book that she likes a small doll or even chocolates. Try to relate these objects to her interests like if she is interested in ballet get her a ballerina doll.
A generic list of romantic gifts you can buy for a date include:
A small bunch of flowers (no roses)
A small bottle of quality perfume
A card or a little note (better if handmade)
Theater or Concert tickets
The thing to remember is that gifts are well and good, but you should not shower her with them. Heavy amounts of romantic presents or gifts will devalue them and she might even think that you're trying to buy her affection. If her birthday or some special occasion (like a promotion for example) arises then by all means, go out and get something really nice and romantic. But while you're still dating casually, you might want to keep things low key at first with simple yet romantic gifts.