Q: "I've been dating this woman for a while
now and I think that she's the one for me. But recently I
think that we've hit a rough patch and she doesn't seem as
into it as she use to be. Is there something that I'm doing
wrong? I really don't understand why she is becoming so cold
all of a sudden, its not like I treat her badly or anything.
In fact I would do anything for her and she knows it. Could
it be a woman problem or are we looking at some kind of relationship
problem that I don't know about? "
A: "There's your answer right there
buddy. You don't treat her badly enough. You didn't tell me
a lot but I'm guessing that you're a pretty nice guy and you're
treating your woman like a princess. Sometimes there's nothing
wrong with that, but you have to know that there are things
you shouldn't do in a relationship. Let me give you some relationship
advice. "
One of the ways to avoid relationship
problems like having her take you for granted and acting cold
towards you is to avoid being a submissive. The really
nice guys don't get the girls so you have to learn to stand
up for yourself. If you don't look after yourself she certainly
won't. And trust me, there are ways to being a man without
being a jerk. If she can't stand having someone standing up
to her unreasonable demands then you're probably better off
without her.
Relationship problems also occur when you
give her all the attention in the world. My advice is that
you're much better off giving her your undivided attention
for a period of time in a day, and then going off and doing
something else (under a good excuse of course). This ensures
that she will be thinking of you and will be thrilled to see
you at the end of the day.
You should know this by now but no matter how good your relationship is with her you should never ever borrow money from her. She may say its ok but it will definitely come up in the future as a huge relationship problem. This is because women are always looking for men who can take care of them. Borrowing money from them shows that you are unable to take care of yourself, let alone her. So unless you're not in it for the long haul, its pretty safe to say that borrowing money is a huge step into creating relationship problems for yourself.
This may piece of relationship advice may
come as a surprise to you but even when you are in
a relationship, you never want to show the girl how crazy
you are for her because this will give her the upper
hand and that's the last thing you want to do in a relationship.
This is because you want to be in charge and you do not want
her taking you for granted.
The best advice to avoid all these relationship
problems is to treat her nice, but not too nicely and to keep
reminding her that you have needs too and that she's not always
number one.
