Q: " See, I made a bet with a drinking
partner of mine that I could get a date with this girl at
the bar and I lost! No big deal I can afford a few bets here
and there but my issue is not with that. My back story is
that I'm a pretty attractive guy, confident and I'm dating
women on a fairly regular basis so my chances with her were
probably 50-50. What I don't get is how my friend immediately
knew that I had zero chances with her at all. I grilled him
about it later but all he would do is laugh and his only clue
was ‘body language'. Supposedly he could tell right from the
start that she wasn't interested in me at all. Is there really
something to reading this body language thing? "
A: " Yes there is definitely something to reading women's body language because as soon as you recognize the signs and motions, you'll be able to read and understand the women's mood, and even her initial feelings towards you. Whether it's a girl you're interested in or just someone you're watching, being able to read and understand what a woman is saying via body language is not just useful, it can also be quite amusing. "
I bet your friend had some fun watching you go up to that girl especially when he knew she had no interest in you at all. I know I get a laugh watching a girl pretend to be interested vocally when her body language is screaming otherwise.
Anyway getting past that, you should probably learn something about reading body language. There are many reasons to want to learn to read women's body language, one of which is to avoid being the guy who gets rejected after trying earnestly. If you learn how to understand and read the signs, you'll also be able to tell whether a woman or a girl interested in you or not before and during the courting period .
If you're looking at some girl in the corner of the room and you're wondering whether she's interested in you or not, here is how you can tell. Is she making any kind of eye contact with you? The longer she holds your gaze the better! Also, what is her body saying? If her body is leaning towards you, you can read that as a sign that she is having positive thoughts about you .
An obvious sign that guys seem to miss is where her hands are. If a woman is holding her drink high up in front of her its bad because her drink is acting as a ‘barrier' and she doesn't want you or any guy approaching her. Also, when you're approaching her are her hands clenched tightly? If they are then it's a bad sign. You can tell when a conversation with a woman is going well if her palms are open and doing a caressing or stroking motion .
Learning how to read women's body language
to improve your dating chances is not a hard thing to do.
In fact, you can even use your common sense sometimes to recognize
the signs. When you're trying to pick the girl up, the more
open her posture is to you, the better your chances. If the
girl you're chatting with started with a closed posture but
moved on to an open one after talking with you, then you see
that she is literally opening up to you and you're chances
of getting a date has just improved!
Knowing how to read someone's body language
is extremely useful and dating women is made so much easier
once you've realised this. If you keep your eyes open you'll
know what's going on so that you can react to her changes
in her mood. The other reason why reading body language is
a good skill to acquire is because after you learn how to
read it, you can understand it and apply it to yourself! So
remember when you're body is speaking make sure you have an
open posture, good eye contact and that you're standing tall
next to the girl you're dating or the woman you're
hoping to date because you never know, they could be reading
your body language too.