Q: "Help me out here. I'm arguing with
a buddy on whether or not a first impression counts when it
comes to picking up girls. I mean, I'm not in it for the long
haul yet; I just want to start meeting some women, get a few
drinks, get a date and maybe get to bed with her. My friend
is completely obsessed about how he looks and how he presents
himself even before he's actually walked up to talk to her.
Tell me he's crazy."
A: "Actually your friend is correct.
A first impression is extremely important in
all aspects of your life including dating and meeting women
. You'd be surprised but many women decide whether
or not she is likely to sleep with a man very early on. If
you've given her a bad impression right from the start, no
amount of persuasion you do later on is going to change her
mind."
So since you can't change her mind I think
you'd better work on changing yours. Your friend being completely
obsessed about the first impressions may be taking it a little
over the top but he definitely has a point. A good first impression
counts when you're trying to meet girls.
The thing is that before you walk up to
a woman you might smooth your clothes down a bit, decide to
put on your best behavior. And that to you, is your first
impression to the girl. What you don't know though is that
she might have been watching you from the minute you stepped
into the club. We're you very loud and rude? The way you sauntered
in and plopped yourself down could also have been quite sloppish.
So watching how you behave right from your start could be very important because you never know which exactly her first impression of you is. More often than not though, it's not going to be when you walk up to meet her.
It is possible to change her mind because it isn't
fair to judge by first impressions (let her know that) but
how bad a first impression she was given will leave an imprint
in her mind. Plus you will take a lot more effort
to change her mind about you after she's had a bad impression
as opposed to if you had taken the time to create a better
first impression.
Hopefully after reading this you will change
your mind about the importance of giving a good first impression
even if it's just meeting women that you want to sleep with.
