Q: " My girl friend of four years just broke up with me and I am at a total loss as to what to do right now. Everything is just seems so shitty. She was my life! What the hell am I suppose to do now? "
A: " I sympathize with you. Four years is a long time and I know for a fact that break ups suck. Whether you are doing the dumping or you've been dumped. But you're not here to hear me talk about how breaking up is shitty, you know this already. I'm here to give you some advice on how to get over breaking up your relationship. "
The best way to get over women is to just forget about her. Forget about your relationship and force yourself not to feel the pain. Refusing to give up and refusing to let this one break up ruin your entire life is a great start to getting over this brutal rejection. Instead of wallowing in despair and self pity, pick yourself up and tell yourself that you are better than this and that you don't need her. Tell yourself that you will get through this, convince yourself inside and our that you're just breaking up a relationship and that it's far from the end of the world.
Hanging out with your family and friends are also a great way to getting over break ups. It is especially important that you hang around positive people after a break up. While it may seem like fun to hang around people who will whine and bitch about your ex-girlfriend, that's only a temporary kind of fun because you know that for all the bad qualities that she had, there were reasons why you stayed with her and that she was not all bad. Tainting your relationship by bitching and whining will probably hurt you more in the long run.
Not thinking about your relationship and the woman will help as well. When you go to places that you went with her or eat at your favorite restaurant, don't think of these things! Don't let these memories keep haunting you. Avoid these places for as long as you need. This is because the longer you keep thinking of what was, the harder it is to handle the rejection and break up . Whatever memories you have of her, just file them up and forget them. Lock them away in a corner and throw away the key. This will really help you get over the breaking up of your relationship.
The final thing that needs to be done to get over break ups, is to return everything of hers. Every little thing that belonged to her, give it back. I'm not suggesting that you return presents, but it may be a good idea to get rid of them or at least put them out of sight. This relates to the ‘good memories' that you made during your time together. In order to get over the rejection you really should not dwell on the past. These items will cause you to do so that is why you need to get rid of them.
Breaking up relationships are hard to do and even harder to get over. But you can get over break ups, it isn't impossible. Just continue to live your life and find new goals and things to do. Dwelling on the past, in this case will not help you get over it at all. So as much as possible, just file and forget.